Sunday 25 February 2018

One coin, two sides.

To Liz, who had only known gran's vigorous old age ~ sharp & sound as a good apple ~ it was all very distressing. ~ Hester Burton: In Spite of all Terror.


Old age is difficult enough: the memory loss; the aches & pains; the incontinence ~the terrible loss of mobility & independence; other people poking & prodding, telling you where to go & what to do & when to do it. The lack of privacy.  What is truly awful is when half the family makes it all soo much worse.

That is where we are: battling the lies & stories, the innuendo, the obstructionism ~ the desire to control other people when we are the ones @ ground zero doing the hard yards.  And every time the interference puts us back to the beginning again, starting from scratch to get the emergency help in place, home care in place, government help sorted, putting the person who needs the help under added stress & duress.

I find it difficult to credit ordinary people can be so nasty, so avaricious, they would put their greed & desire to not be burdened with the care of an elderly parent ahead enough to see them unhappy in an aged care facility  rather than happily @ home with a little help. *sigh*

I do not do well with aggressive & selfish people. *double sigh*

As one generation wanes the new one rises up.  My twins were the bearers of double good news this week.  T1 is about to produce our 2nd grandchild.  Sometime in October.  OT has announced his engagement. It is all a little overwhelming.  I don't think I do life well.  Ideas are easier.  If you don't like one, just bury it.  Life is not like that.

Tuesday 6 February 2018

A Matter of Taste.

Some children read; some devour any & all printed matter.  I fell into the latter category. Each & every week I took out my full allotment from, not one, but 2 libraries. That was between 8 & 20 books a week [the numbers increased over time as libraries became more generous with their lending policies] & I could read the lot in a week.

Mind you, by the time I reached High School & realised any mathematical acumen would forever be beyond my reach, I acquired several extra hours in which to read by slipping my present reading material under my desk. Granted a large part of my reading was hardly edifying but I was reading The Taming of the Shrew for pleasure in primary school simply because we owned  a complete compilation of The Bard's works & that was the one that grabbed my fancy.

We were a home that owned books.  One reason my mother worked so hard in school was because books were always given as prizes & in due time I inherited her Billabong & Dimsie books.  Unlike her I had no desire to go to boarding school. Ever.  The thought of being locked up with a hoard of females my own age & made to conform to an extrovert schedule appalled me. I did, however, acquire a taste for what is known as *school stories*.  Along with Dimsie were the Abbey Girls & the Chalet school , Angela Brazil, & even Enid Blyton dabbled. There were the boys books too: Tom Brown's Schooldays; Jennings; Billy Bunter.  I didn't discriminate. The good, the bad & the indifferent were all grist for the mill.

I could, however, tell the difference & it is to my eternal joy I was blessed to stumble upon Antonia Forest, one of the good ones.  Excellent.

I have never understood why Forest [not her real name] got lumbered with the lable: school stories.  Certainly 4 of her books about the Marlow family are set @ Kingscote, an elite girls boarding school, but 2 are historical novels & 4 others deal with a variety of other things like the  War [II], the Brontes, falconry, pigeon racing & mixed families but even when Forest was still alive, still publishing, she was a seriously underrated writer.  I have never understood why.  I adored her. But even then her books were as rare as hen's teeth & incredibly hard to lay hands on.

I did manage, by dint of accessing the Inter~library Loan system, to eventually read all the books, not in sequence, & I did manage to buy all the school ones in paperback.  As an adult I see that Forest's delightful sense of irony & the sarcasm of some of her characters would likely go over many children's heads but as a reader who enjoys books about books, Forest was a wonderful introduction to the world of unknown literature & most of my older copies of her work have scribbled notes in their margins where I looked up casual references I didn't recognise: Hakluyt; Blessed Edmund Campion; or Baby Lon...Better yet  was the delightful sense of recognition for I could recite The Highwayman, had read Apollo's Mask & wanted to marry Lord Peter Wimsey, to say nothing of stumbling upon The Lyke Wake Dirge in all its glory. This was a world where esoteric knowledge & my reading habits were not out of place.

However it is Forest's handle on character that resonates authentically.  No~one is all good.  No~one is all bad.  Good characters do stupid things & bad ones do noble things & the internal conflict of navigating the morass of other people's feelings & emotions is as daunting now as it was then. She is so good that those of us lucky enough to find her as a child have continued to enjoy her work as adults & predictably we hold onto her books.  They do not end up in Jumble sales or the Thrift Shops.  Rare.  Very rare indeed~ as I found when I began to scout round hoping to scrounge up a copy of every one of her books.

The 1st one I aimed for was The Ready~Made Family because in many ways it is my favourite. It cost me a small fortune & came from America, not England as one would suppose. The basic outline goes:  Nicola's oldest sister Karen gets married.  However she is just 19; he is 41 with 3 children. As Nicola's brother, Peter, observes: D'you think there was a ghastly pause after Kay said, And there's another seven @ home? 
There was a gruesome ghastly pause after Kay said He's 41 with 3 children, I can tell you that...


Peter has the awful habit of talking Mummerzet ~ an invented west counties dialect that is simply infuriating, even to read. Actually Peter is infuriating; in turns charming, kind, arrogant & obnoxious. In some books I really like him, but not in this one.  As an adult all my sympathies lie with the adults he's driving to distraction.  One of those is his new F~I~L, a man who is consistently portrayed, from the children's point of view, as an unlikable old fuddy~duddy & why Kay marries him no~one can understand...! And this is why I like Forest.  Right @ the very end, Forest turns everything on it's head for Nicola finds herself contemplating this suddenly different person; he gave her a thin, ironic smile & she saw that he might indeed be, not only a different, but an easier person than she'd thought: one, with whom, to put it @ it's lowest, one would be able to share the occasional joke... & on that thought pushes Lord Peter forward like a chess piece & finds herself reciprocated.

It does help if you get the references because of sub~texts & all that but it's not necessary.  I just have the sort of mind that likes to know what everyone is talking about but the books can be read & enjoyed if you know nothing of the Brontes, have never hunted hawks, & thought all pigeons were good for was defacing statues. It's all a matter of taste, but for my money, Forest is worth every cent.